When you paint men as a monolithic abusive class, and women as a monolithic victim class, that’s sexist. It stereotypes them and. Aside from being completely unfactual, it’s bigoted and harmful and erases same sex relationship abuse and abuse by women against men and people who don’t fit into the gender binary as well.
Let me tell you a story, Tumblr.
Male victims of domestic abuse don’t get shit for support if their abuser is a woman. Neither do the children in those situations a lot of the time. I know this first-hand. Even if the woman is trying to kill the man, if he lifts a hand to defend himself, he’s the one that gets in trouble because “haha you’re a man how could a WOMAN ever be a threat to you haha what a loser”. If he tries to go to anyone for help, he gets told that he “brought it on himself” and that the woman was just “sooo stressed out under the pressures of being a wife and mother”.
Everyone, sexists and feminists alike, does this. Oh sure, feminists will talk a big game about “oh we’re working to help men too!!!” but if you try to get them to seriously discuss this, they derail and make excuses, bringing up dubious statistics and going on and on about the unbearable stress of being a woman and the patriarchy and blah blah blah.
Unfollow me if you want, but I take this incredibly seriously. I won’t bend on this issue. The gendering of the domestic abuse issue is disgusting and so many innocent people, a lot of them children, get screwed because of it.
Feminism shouldn’t be excusing and supporting this kind of thing. They should be actively fighting it. Because the act of not holding women accountable for their actions is itself sexist and infantilizing. I hate this trend of feminists telling me I’m a victim and nothing else.
Women are not perfect little angels that can do no wrong and are just innocent victims of teh big meen patriarchy ;n;. Women are people, like anyone else. And like anybody they can be nasty, hateful, selfish, abusive people. Having a vagina doesn’t make you a good person, being a good person makes you a good person. And if feminism isn’t going to hold shitty people accountable for their actions then they need to grow the fuck up and start treating women like equals.